Immature love says…

Immature love says: ‘I love you because I need you.’ Mature love says ‘I need you because I love you.’

—Erich Fromm

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Affection is…

Affection is responsible for nine-tenths of whatever solid and durable happiness there is in our lives.

—CS Lewis

When we are restless…

When we are restless, everything in us screams to move outward, to seek some activity that will soothe the ache. However, to find solitude we must move inward, away from all activity. Ultimately, what turns our restless aching into inner quiet and peace is not more activity, but sitting still long enough for restlessness to turn into restfulness, compulsion to freedom, impatience to patience, self absorption to altruism, and heartache to empathy.

—Ronald Rolheiser, The Holy Longing

Our life is a short time in expectation…

Our life is a short time in expectation, a time in which sadness and joy kiss each other at every moment. There is a quality of sadness that pervades all the moments of our life. It seems that there is no such thing as a clear-cut pure joy, but that even in the most happy moments of our existence we sense a tinge of sadness. In every satisfaction, there is an awareness of limitations. In every success, there is the fear of jealousy. Behind every smile, there is a tear. In every embrace, there is loneliness. In every friendship, distance. And in all it’s forms of light, there is the knowledge of surrounding darkness.… But this intimate experience in which every bit of life is touched by a bit of death can point us beyond the limits of our existence. It can do so by making us look forward in expectation to the day when our hearts will be filled with perfect joy, a joy that no one shall take away from us.

— Henri Nouwen